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Delve into the vibrant world of swinging with our A-Z swingers glossary, offering essential insights into the terminology and practices prevalent in the swinging lifestyle.
A person, often a woman, is brought to a swinger party solely to facilitate entry for a male. While frowned upon, this practice exists, sometimes involving paid sex workers.
Primarily associated with the kink scene, “Alpha” can also denote a dominant partner in a cuckold scenario, directing a submissive hotwife’s actions.
Describes individuals comfortable with monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, adapting based on circumstances or partners.
Wearing a black ring on the right hand may signal swinger status, although caution is advised as it has also been used to signify asexuality.
A variation of a gang bang where a woman performs oral sex on multiple male partners in a group setting.
A sought-after male, often well-endowed, sought by hotwife couples for casual sexual encounters.
Indicates willingness to host swinging activities or playdates at home or another venue.
Individuals capable of travelling for swinging encounters, unrestricted by distance.
Derived from King Candaules, signifies sexual arousal from watching one’s partner engage in sexual activity with another person.
Confirmation that another member vouches for the authenticity of a couple or individual’s swinger profile.
Any activity, sexual or otherwise, violating relationship agreements or occurring without a partner’s consent or knowledge.
Performing oral sex on a partner after intercourse.
Indicates comfort with playing in separate rooms without visual observation from partners.
Someone concealing their involvement in the swinging lifestyle.
Experiencing joy and satisfaction from seeing one’s partner engage in sexual activities with others. Contrasts jealousy.
Giving consent to be violated for role-play purposes, such as “rape” or ravishment fantasies.
Clear and informed permission for sexual activities, revocable at any time.
In swinging, denotes a man and a woman, whether married, in a committed relationship, or friends with benefits, engaging in swinging activities.
Organized swingers take-over cruises with nightly theme parties and onboard nudity.
A husband who either watches his partner engage in sexual activities with others or is aware of her solo encounters.
A wife who derives pleasure from her partner’s sexual encounters with others, contrasting with a hotwife dynamic.
Stands for “Does Not Do Drugs” and “Does Not Have Sexually Transmitted Infections,” indicating cleanliness.
The main operator of a swingers club or event.
Couples are seeking privacy in their swinging activities, requesting discretion from others.
Engaging in public or semi-remote sexual activities, often with the participation or observation of strangers.
A partner in control of a willing submissive, often abbreviated to “Dom” or “Domme.”
An open relationship where partners are allowed to engage sexually with others but refrain from discussing it.
Simultaneous penetration of a woman vaginally and anally.
Refers to individuals displaying jealousy or causing disturbances in the swinging community.
Describes a relationship devoid of jealousy or emotional turmoil.
A code name used to discreetly identify swingers without compromising privacy.
Denotes couples who exclusively play with each other or a select group of couples.
Someone who derives pleasure from displaying their body or engaging in sexual activities in front of others.
Couples prioritise family obligations over swinging activities.
An intense fixation on a particular object or act, sometimes essential for sexual gratification.
Indicates a threesome involving two females and one male, with “FF” implying girl-on-girl play.
Agreement between partners to share sexual secretions, typically through unprotected sex.
A relationship combining friendship with sexual intimacy, often extending to swinging activities.
Individuals engaging in regular sexual encounters without a committed relationship.
Couples who are comfortable exchanging partners for penetrative sex.
Involves a single woman having sex with multiple men in the same session.
A dedicated space at swingers’ parties for group sexual activities.
Sexual activity involving four or more individuals.
Swingers parties where sexual interaction is expected.
A resort in Jamaica catering to swinger couples and singles.
Individuals open to same-sex play under certain circumstances, without identifying as bisexual.
A woman who enjoys sexual encounters outside her relationship with her partner’s consent.
A private gathering of swingers hosted in a residence.
Slang for swinging activities.
Couples of different races engage in swinging activities.
Seeking a swinging relationship with both emotional and recreational aspects.
Abbreviation for “In Search Of,” commonly used in swinger profiles.
A term encompassing the swinging community and related activities.
Abbreviation for “Lifestyle.”
A man boasting sexual prowess or well-endowed anatomy.
A room designated for group sexual activities at swingers’ parties.
Popping one’s head up during public sex at swingers’ parties to gauge observers’ interest.
Social events for swingers to meet without sexual activity.
The partner of one’s partner in a polyamorous relationship.
A foursome involving two couples swapping partners.
A threesome involving two men and one woman.
Couples engage in non-monogamous activities without fully embracing polyamory.
Sexual activities involving more than three individuals.
Determining boundaries for swinging activities, whether short-term or long-term.
Couples new to the swinging lifestyle.
A fundamental rule in swinging, emphasises the importance of consent.
Sexual encounters without expectations of commitment or emotional involvement.
Swingers events where socializing occurs off-site, with sexual activities arranged elsewhere.
Swingers clubs or events allow sexual activities on-site.
Couples are comfortable with playing in the same room as others.
Marriages allowing partners to engage in sexual activities outside the relationship.
Couples are receptive to various partners, including bisexual individuals.
Group sexual activity involving multiple people.
Pansexual individuals are attracted to others regardless of gender or sexuality, both physically and emotionally.
Couples engaging in parallel play at swinging parties participate physically only with their own partners, despite being in the same room as other couples.
The term PAWG is occasionally used to describe women with voluptuous figures at swinging events.
Pegging, where a woman penetrates a man anally with a strap-on dildo, is a scenario found in some swinging encounters.
Anecdotes suggest that placing a pineapple outside a house might signify involvement in the swinging lifestyle, while an upside-down pineapple could indicate a search for swingers’ parties.
In the swinging scene, “play” is a common term used to refer to engaging in sexual activities after meeting up, often preceded by socializing or having drinks.
Swingers often organize play parties at clubs or private residences, where sexual activities are the primary focus.
A playmate in a swinging community is someone, whether single or part of a couple, with whom one regularly engages in sexual activities.
Thailand has a growing polyamorous community, where individuals form multiple committed relationships, often with the knowledge and consent of all partners involved.
The Queen of Spades symbol or hashtag QOS can signal a white woman’s preference for black men in swinging contexts.
Recreational swingers enjoy swinging for pleasure without necessarily seeking long-term emotional connections.
Some individuals in the swinging lifestyle practice relationship anarchy, where traditional relationship rules are eschewed for a more fluid and individualized approach.
Swingers vary in their relationship dynamics and orientations, with some preferring monogamy while others explore non-monogamous or polyamorous arrangements.
References to Roman culture in the swinging community may signify group sex or orgy scenarios.
Swinging couples who engage in same-room sex are comfortable swapping partners but only within the same space.
Seasoned swingers have extensive experience in the lifestyle and are comfortable with partner exchanges in private and party settings.
Some swinging couples prefer separate room encounters, where they swap partners and engage in sexual activities without their primary partners present.
In the swinging scene, singles without partners are often referred to as Swingles, regardless of their marital status.
In the swinging community, mentioning a “site” typically refers to online platforms like Swingles, where individuals connect for swinging activities.
Social events sponsored by swing clubs or websites provide opportunities for swinger couples to meet, mingle, and establish connections.
Swingers, comfortable with engaging in sexual activities outside committed relationships, exhibit unrestricted sociosexual orientations.
Soft swinging, involving kissing, touching, and possibly oral or mutual masturbation, is a common practice among swinger couples who reserve full intercourse for their primary partners.
In-swinging culture, a spit roast involves a woman receiving simultaneous penetration from the front and back by two men.
While less common, the term “snowbunny” may refer to a white woman who exclusively dates black men in some swinging circles.
In the swinging community, a stag proudly shares his partner with other men without feeling diminished, distinguishing himself from a cuckold.
Submissive partners in the swinging dynamics enjoy being passive and dominated by their counterparts.
Swapping partners for sexual activities, from soft play to full swap, is a prevalent practice among swingers.
Swingers participate in the lifestyle by engaging in consensual sexual activities with others, with the knowledge and consent of their primary partners.
Swinging couples may adopt unique profile names or nicknames, such as Bonnie & Clyde, for identification within the swinging community.
Exclusive clubs or venues cater to regular swinger parties, providing spaces for socializing and sexual activities.
Swinging involves consensual, recreational sexual activities among adults, often couples, who openly communicate and share mutual desires.
Individuals in the swinging scene who are comfortable in both monogamous and polyamorous relationships or can switch between dominant and submissive roles are termed “switches.”
Individuals identifying as both swingers and polyamorous embrace multiple relationships alongside recreational sex within the swinging lifestyle.
Temptation, an adult resort, offers a unique playground for adults, with swinger-friendly amenities and topless options.
TGD refers to trans and gender-diverse individuals, recognizing and respecting gender diversity within the swinging community.
Threesomes, involving three individuals engaging in sexual activities, are sought after and enjoyed by some swingers.
At swingers’ clubs or parties, a towel shark refers to a single individual, typically male, attempting to join ongoing encounters between couples.
While less common, polyamorous triads, involving three individuals emotionally and sexually involved with each other, exist with swinging circles.
swingers often describe themselves as tri-sexual, indicating a willingness to explore various sexual experiences without limitation.
In the swinging community, a unicorn refers to a single woman attending parties and engaging in sexual activities with couples.
Some couples seek unicorns, but the term “unicorn hunter” can carry derogatory connotations when expectations are unrealistic or exploitative.
Utopian swingers fully embrace swinging as a total lifestyle, integrating it into various aspects of their lives.
Validation, similar to certification, confirms the authenticity of individuals within the swinging community, often through identification or verification processes.
Non-swingers or monogamous individuals are referred to as “vanilla,” indicating their lack of participation in swinging or kink activities.
swingers may encounter “vanilla swirls,” individuals open to sexual adventure but not fully immersed in the swinging lifestyle.
Swinging platforms and clubs, “verified” members have undergone identification or verification processes to ensure the authenticity of their profiles.
Vixens’s swinging context are partnered females open to sexual encounters alone or in front of their proud stag partners, resembling the hotwife dynamic.
The act of vixing involves a woman engaging in sexual activities with a man other than her partner with full consent and encouragement.
Voyeurism, deriving sexual arousal from watching others’ sexual acts, is a common practice among swingers, whether in person or through other mediums.
A partnered woman who takes male lovers outside the relationship often in the context of swinging or cuckoldry.
